Do you feel like your looking for something to hold on to in your current relationship? Wanna figure out what that is and if there’s anything at all? I feel we all do this, not just women, men too. We feel the sense of something missing in our relationship and can’t quite pinpoint it. For women were quick to say, “I want to know if he wants a future with me”. Then the other question raises, why do you assume he doesn’t it? Also, why do you assume you need to plan for your future with him 5years from now, when you haven’t even made 1.
It’s the same with men too, they feel like their partner isn’t showing them what they want, and actions speak louder than words. Believe or not, men want to feel wanted too. They may not say it! Someone individuals may seem good at communicating cause they call or text you everyday, but they can’t quite seem to move past topics like for example the weather and get down to the real topics below the surface, their baically barely scarpping it.
Clearly, if all you talked about was the weather that relationship would be quite boring, but we all have been there when it comes down to talking about the deep stuff they shut down. Relationships are about communication, even the hard stuff to talk about like saying that 3 letter word. You guessed it! It’s “I love you”. Some couples are so terrified of that one saying that feels like it can make or break a relationship. That’s because it has so much weight and can mean so many things. It can mean I love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you. Or it could mean I love you cause you are my happy place. Urban dictionary states
“I love you” means that I accept you for the person that you are, and that I do not wish to change you into someone else. It means that I will love you and stand by you even through the worst of times….It means thinking of you, dreaming of you, wanting and needing you constantly, and hoping you feel the same way for me.”
My point here is that we can’t allow insignificant things to affect our happiness. At the end of the day, actions speak louder than words. I myself have been in situations where I heard that word all the time, and it meant nothing cause neither did they stand by it, but they certainly didn’t treat me like it meant anything. It truly only means something, when they have actions to back it up. Let’s say for instance your partner loves feet and maybe likes to spend some one-on-one times with your toes every now and than, and you think it’s weird. You need to give them that time! You might not love it but there’s nothing wrong with sacrificing a bit of time to make the person you care for happy. You don’t have to do it every night, maybe every 2 weeks if it bothers you that much, just to help fill their needs as they should do for you in return.
If deep down you feel something is missing than talking to your partner, but odds are if they make you happy and the problem isn’t appearing as they speak to you or even after. There may be something that’s missing is somewhere else in your life. Sometimes we allow other people around us to not only influence us but make us feel like we need what they have when what they have may look good on paper but isn’t what we need. Only we know what we need. So if you need to make a list of all your hopes and dreams and how to achieve then do that. Also while doing so, remind your partner how much they mean to you. Don’t allow anymore outside opinions to affect your mindest anymore. The only opinion that matters is theirs, and of course your own.
If you’ve made it to the end of this article then I hope this has given you some clarity on your current situation. Just remember all that matters is what makes you happy, and what you need to be happy. If they make you happy then screw everyone else, just like if chocolate makes you happy then eat it. The most important thing that your partner should care about is your happiness.
Anyways I could go on and on, but I’m not gonna do that today, if you need any relationship advice I never charge just send an email or even a Dm. Bye-bye now!